A Wise State of Mind, Part 3: Her Tongue

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Lifted right out of Nancy Wolgemuth’s “Adorned,” here are some of her practical examples of a wise and unwise woman, specifically her tongue.

UNWISEWISE
Says whatever comes to mind without hesitatingSlow to speak, words are measured, thinks first
Talks too much Good listener
Quick to vent anger/frustrationQuick to praise/give thanks
Wounds/belittles/tears downWords minister grace/blessing/encouragement
ExaggeratesCareful with the truth
Speaks roughlyGracious, pure words
ArgumentativeHumble/yields the right to be right
Excessive shyness/fearful to talkBlesses others by speaking good words in due season

I realize these are true of us at one time or another, thus the importance of saying sorry unto the Lord and then unto others (especially our husband and kids!)

Now this takes a bit of intentionality. But definitely, bridling our tongue, and being a blessing by way of words isn’t accomplished by more self-will & determination, but rather a dependence on God and His Spirit’s enabling grace.

Lord, may we call on to You for bridling our tongue, blessing people with our words, in season and out of season, may You enable us to continue building people up, bring healing with our words to all around us, and especially spread kindness and loving discipline to our kids too, in Jesus name, Amen!

“There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”

Proverbs 12:18

“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”

Ephesians 4:29

A Wise State of Mind: Her Mindset and Attitudes

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Titus 2: 3-5,10

They are to teach what is good, so train the young women to love their husbands and children, and to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.

…so that in everything they may adorn the doctrine of God our Savior.

Previously I’ve posted about the wise woman’s state of mind, specifically emotions. To continue on the series of the wise state of mind, the next segment is: mindset and attitudes.

Lifted from Nancy Wolgemuth’s amazing and beautiful book Adorned, which talks about the Titus 2 woman, these are a few of the hundred examples she has outlined on what a wise woman’s mindset ought to be.

UNWISEWISE
Self-centered:
How does this affect me?
Others-centered:
“How does my behavior affect others?”
Discontented;
entitlement mindset:
“I deserve better”
Contented, humble, grateful,
gives thanks in all circumstances
Seeks escape from pressures and problemsWilling to endure hardship for the sake of ultimate gain/reward
Lacks discernment, not careful about what influences her; lets anything inCareful, discerning regarding what she reads, watches, listens to
Feeds the flesh, flesh controls the spiritFeeds the spirit, restrains the flesh, spiritually, morally, mentally vigilant – heart and mind are grounded and guarded
Impulsive, impetuousExercises restraint and self-government
Victim of her circumstances and pastUses her past as stepping stone to greater fruitfulness
Has good intentions but doesn’t follow through; commitments are short-lived Follows through on commitments, develops godly disciplines
A Sophron woman’s mindset and attitudes

Couldn’t they be more polar opposites? How did you fare? 🙂

Well, this was written before the pandemic! It certainly has been a roller coaster of a year and a half! A ton of man’s plans has changed, but then again the Word is unchanging and eternal!

I’m again thrilled that there is encouragement for those of us painfully aware of our failings amidst our sin nature and circumstances.

Most gratefully, the book continues: “God has never left us to His will on our own, not by our sheer willpower and determination.”

Paul made it clear in this letter to Titus as he was left in Cretan church, that “the wise woman’s state of mind is initiated, produced, and enabled by His Spirit and grace.”

My prayer for us is that we become Titus 2 women, as enabled by His Spirit and grace!

Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.

Titus 2:3-5

A Wise State of Mind

“For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people, training us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives in the present age…”

Titus 2:11-12

One of my leisure reads now is Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth’s book Adorned, and it is indeed a beautiful take on how a Titus 2 woman ought to be, by God’s grace. JD bought it for me 3 years ago! The author stresses there that “to be a wise woman does require effort and vigilance on our part, and we tap into the enabling grace of God as we take advantage of the means He has provided for our transformation and growth.”

Now let’s take a look at some (there’s more than a 100) of Nancy’s examples specifically about emotions:

Unwise WomanWise Woman
Emotions controlled by circumstances; lives on emotional roller coasterEmotionally stable, remains calm/doesn’t lose it under pressure
Choices driven by feelings, external pressure, circumstancesChoices driven by the Word of God
Falls apart in a crisisHeart is steadfast, trusting in the Lord; has presence of mind and knows what to do in a crisis
Easily provoked/irritated; flies off the handle quicklySlow to get angry; not easily provoked
Moody, sullen, temperamentalPeaceful, joyful; the joy of the Lord is her strength
When life doesn’t work, becomes angry, resentful, depressed, loses hopeHopes in the Lord; trusts Him, waits on Him to right all wrongs
Fretful, anxiousPrayerful, trusting
A Sophron woman’s emotions

Now I’m positive this was written before the pandemic! O what a year and a half it has been! But then again the Word is unchanging and eternal!

Well, I’m certainly thrilled there’s encouragement for those of us who are painfully aware of our failings amidst our sin nature and circumstances.

Most gratefully, the book continues: “God has never left us to His will on our own, not by our sheer willpower and determination.” Paul made it clear in this letter to Titus as he was left in Cretan church, that “the wise woman’s state of mind is initiated, produced, and enabled by His Spirit and grace.”

Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.

Titus 2:3-5

Putting Marriage and Family before God

Idolatry in marriage and family? Is it possible?! Yes, it can be, and it is possible to fall into this temptation; for we do value the opinion of those we love the most.

Idolatry is defined as excessive devotion to or worship of something other than God. An idol is anything that replaces the one true God. It is wrong and it’s a thing we need to say sorry to God for, and fight against.

What if husband and wife do not see eye to eye on some things yet? What if, as you lead, homeschool and discipline your kids, they hate you? Would it still be possible to honor God still, to make marriage and family life work? YES!

Jan 25, 2021; Intimate dinner at a Thai restaurant for our 8th wedding anniversary

Persevere in the work despite pain

Pastor Steve Murrell, in addressing Every Nation NA leaders, said that “If we let our pain, rather than our purpose become the center, we will quit the ministry.” Isn’t our marriage our first ministry as Christians?

To what do we persevere in? For us wives and mothers, it can be all things – even the simplest ones. Is it the office work lying on your desk? Is it the lunch or dinner that needs to be cooked and served? It can be the pile of dishes waiting in the sink, or the floor-full of toys waiting to be tidied up, in prayer and in surrendering to the Lord the things we can’t control, we can persevere.

Nancy Wolgemuth would differentiate a wise woman’s emotions and habits from an unwise one, calling it a “sophron state of mind.” I have been chewing on this list of 100+ qualities and its mighty helpful.

UNWISEWISE
Impetuous, impulsiveExercises restraint and self-government
Self-centered – “How does this affect me?”Others-centered – “How does my behavior affect others?”
Choices driven by feelings, external pressure, circumstancesChoices driven by the Word of God
Fearful Trusts in the Lord
Wounds, belittles, tears down others with her wordsWords minister grace, blessing, encouragement to the hearer
Argumentative Humble, yields the right to be right
Struggles to maintain consistent disciplines and routinesDevelops and maintains healthy, consistent disciplines and habits
Easily distracted – flits from one thing to another, inability to focus, concentrate, or finish a task Focuses on what God has given her to do at the moment, and brings tasks to completion
some examples of Nancy Wolgemuth’s list of “A Sophron State of Mind”

The bible does call us to act in wisdom by persevering in various trials, I’ve had this verse plastered on my clothes cabinet growing up, it has helped me a lot!

“Blessed is the one who endures trials, because when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him.”

James 1:12

Your identity is still true in Christ despite what others may think

Today’s most erroneous value source is in social media likes, comments, subscriptions and repost/retweets; but not so in the gospel. Ultimately this rings true even in the disagreement of those closest to us.

Victory Morning Devotions has been a constant source of encouragement during this pandemic for many Filipinos, including me, and the July 14 devotion on Ephesians 1:18, is about us believers being God’s treasured possession or inheritance. I learned that the three qualities an inheritance has to have is:

  • a recognized or perceived value,
  • defined ownership, and
  • a paid price.

All of those Jesus has already purchased and declared for me on the cross, and it stands true no matter our dreary daily circumstance. If we look all around us, it can be easy to see dreary circumstances, good thing the gospel reminds us that our first priority is to God, and making the family go first is indeed an idolatry.

It’s also incredibly hurtful and draining for your family to bear the brunt of your perceived identity and security, these can only rightly be gained from Jesus.

As you do the right thing, whether your kids believe, trust, obey you or not, your value in Christ remains the same. Your value in Christ remains the same even in relational stress with the ones you hold most dear, husband and kids included.

Kevin DeYoung would say that our commitment to family must not come before our commitment to God. He says that family is good, necessary, and foundational, but not ultimate.

I love my family to pieces, and I would surely do all I can to enable them to fulfill their purpose in life, but indeed, a function of that love for them, is putting them second only to God. To be honest, I’m not sure how I can function well as wife and mom at any rate if Jesus wasn’t my Lord and Savior.

Should we really rely only on visible results?

A ton of things we do daily/weekly/yearly will not have visible results. In time they will, but should we pin our satisfaction in visible changes, it’s unwise and may cause our emotions to go haywire!

We can’t merely resort to stifling our emotions, or even exalting them, instead we can pour them out to God. Carolyn Mahaney and Nicole Whitacre writes in their book True Feelings: “when Christ restores our emotions, they can work the way He always intended, to work in harmony with our other faculties: the mind and the will. On one hand we musn’t despise God’s gift of emotions by stifling what we feel, we should receive this gift, make use of it, enjoy it; on the other hand we must not favor or exalt our emotions. We must not live only to feel, but we should appreciate and apply our minds and wills in equal measure.

We can continue to press on, despite not seeing the results we work on and pray for, just because pressing on honors the Lord as he enables us to persevere.

Speck vs Beam

What is the speck in your husband’s eye? Granted, it’s clouding his vision. But what about the beam of wood in your own eye? For us Christian women married to Christian husbands, we are blessed that God is their Lord and they listen to Him. If not, it still holds true that the wife’s godly behavior can win them over to Christ.

It’s extremely helpful to examine ourselves if we are sorely lacking in something, and for us women, it somehow can be distilled as an inadequacy in respect in conveying our thoughts and feelings.

Surely the gift and mystery of marriage is something I try to cultivate and seek to honor Him everyday in, all by His grace!

Family life is busy, but fun and fulfilling!

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Prayer and Patience

Recently we had our friend’s bridal shower and it was as sweet as it gets! Weddings are truly lovely and displays a picture of Christ and His bride, the Church.

With marriage of course comes character formation.

The message I wanted to send across to our bride-to-be is the importance of prayer and patience.

Sabi pa sa Filipino class, “Ang pag-aasawa ay hindi biro, ‘di tulad ng kanin, iluluwa kung mapaso.” Marriage is difficult, its not like food that you can spit out if it burns.

So therein lies the message of prayer and patience. Prayer can bring you patience even.

As we pray, persevere, we can be patient and surrender the results to God.

What do we pray for?

We can pray for our own character flaws, we can pray for his character flaws.

We can ask God for grace and perseverance to overcome and rise above challenges, as a tagteam.

I’m afraid no one has “arrived” in this. I’m talking to myself even as I’m talking to you dear reader.

Provision financially is a common grace and its a means to an end. A heart check here seems in order.

What is your end in what you’re believing God to provide for you?

Will it be used to honor him? Will it be used to live your life in such a way that advances the Kingdom? Does it glorify you, your skills and capabilities, or God?

Having a husband is quite an all encompassing word, the wife has him as best friend, forever teammate, workmate toward goals, intimacy partner, safe zone, co-parent, counselor, leader, and so much more: what a pleasure. What a joy it is to have that!

Cultivating a godly marriage and raising up kids in Christ, arguably, could be the two most difficult things we could do in life. Yet they are the most fulfilling, and sanctifying.

Marriage is such a challenging but beautiful mystery that portrays Christ and the Church, His bride, to partake in it is such a joyful honor.

Its greatly refreshing to celebrate with a friend who’s getting married! JD and I are blessed to be part of this couple’s lives!

Marriage is such a challenging but beautiful mystery that portrays Christ and the Church, His bride, to partake in it is such a joyful honor.

"My love is mine and I am his.."
Song of Songs 2:16A

Create, Create, Create!

Creativity in kids always costs something.

Energy

It surely demands support from mom & dad when kids are encouraged to be creative, well more like energy for mom to cleanup, and energy to teach to cleanup!

A bit, or even a lot of boredom comes in as well, because they need that, to think of something to occupy their minds and time.

So really, for us, its ok to not have a fully scheduled or structured day, or I would just allot a large chunk of time for free play, it gives me time for my own creativity, naptime, or quiet time as well.

The Bluedorns’ Ten Before Ten

Supplies

Harry and Laurie Bluedorn’s Ten Before Ten certainly recommends Arts and Crafts to be one of the ten things kids need to be involved in before they turn ten years old. Creativity does cost supplies too, for there has to be something with which they could create with, and it has to be easily accessible to them in their play area.

Another one of their 10 Before 10 recommendations is Play & Exploration, thus as much as I can, I let them play pretend on their own with their myriad supplies & toys lying around, happy mom, happy kids!

Salma’s cartoon

Ironically, the messier it is, the more creative in play pretend they can be! It is when they can’t even be disturbed from play to even eat, and they even run to and from the toilet as fast as they can!

In our household, music is a norm. JD is a musician and he did it professionally before going into ministry, then creatively ever since. So for the kids now, it does cost instruments, time and lessons from dad, and forbearance from mom!

Patience and Disruption

If they suddenly blurt out singing, humming, playing the recorder, lyre or keyboard out of nowhere, I have to be patient for that. I guess life with kids is full of those. That is life in parenting itself, it does involve disruptions, selflessness, and character molding moments almost every second.

Even if they drew on my lesson plan, study bible, or any of my books, (they really did!) I must be ready for it, (while not cancelling the teaching of disciplined creativity) if I hope to implement this in our home.

Apparently this is how they think to divide their time! When to eat anak?

Space

Whatever it is, it has to be kept. I guess that’s the sentimental side of my husband. He says, “Well we can never go back to this time of their lives.” True.

By God’s grace, we can manage, and we hope to raise kids who are creators, not just consumers.

My Adorned book by Nancy Wolgemuth “vandalized” as Shiloh drew Daddy as a shark, playing Tag with her and Salma.
I believe this is a certain horsey horsey named Bucephalus

This and countless others fill our home and I am blessed to have these happy, messy disruptions!

The Blessing of Obedience and Submission

On having and afternoon out in the sun when dad wasn’t available to join us:
It may have farther, more difficult to get to, and I hadn’t set my mind for it, opting instead for a nearby park about a 10 minute drive away. But by God’s grace I did it anyway, and thus, the blessing is ultimately always there in what is the right thing to do.

Earlier, there has been a discussion between the husband and the wife where we ought to have gone, having been cooped up an isolating at home for a week. The 10-minute drive Carlos P. Garcia park is not open to kids this day according to the city’s Covid restrictions. Thankfully Alona beach is open, free, and not crowded at all!

Stretching our legs and being in an open space is our idea of fun! Never mind the girl band Tiktoking behind them!


It may not have been easier to get to Alona beach, (what with a safe mom drive of 45 minutes!) but it was definitely more fun!!


I was even instructed not to touch the lined up “barrells of wheat”, because they were baking leaf breads!


Growing up we used to go to Tagaytay’s picnic grove, an epic open space to view Taal volcano, wherein we would just enter the park and pay for parking, then out comes our baon food for the whole clan laid out on the wooden tables.


For us now, here is our version of picnic grove, and its just the three of us.😅

Yummy apple! Don’t worry we didn’t leave any trash behind!

Meanwhile, mine own view as I lied down the sand with Salma’s backpack as my pillow.

Isn’t it a blessing to a mom when even one of the children can, and already carries her own backpack?

Overall we had a good and much needed afternoon out in the sun, walking, running, eating, sitting, playing, “coconut tag” and just listening to some music, enjoying the blessing that obedience to our family’s leader brought.

On Coronavirus, Loss, and Gain

With Covid19 well on its way in “destroying” what we knew life to be, some countries are in better places, most are still far off in defeating it; it seemed rational to be talking about losses and gains.

People lost relatives, friends, businesses, jobs, ways of living, more terribly, hope.

I haven’t had much experience on loss of people apart from grandparents — natural causes due to old age — those could be somewhat rationally expected.

But I do have experience on loss of material things, pride, anger, and most other toxic goings on in my heart.

Take for example my engagement ring. How terrible that I lost that! Ever so ironically, it was lost during our pre-nup photoshoot, through swimming on the same beach where we got married! It would’ve been a great heirloom! I had suffered that in bits and pieces for quite a long time.

I guess all loss is felt that way. You do feel it in a burst at the beginning, then feel it still from time to time (in my case, how horrendously careless I was for losing such a valuable thing).

Such the military woman & trooper that I was, I wasn’t hysterical, no one knew except JD 2 days later. (Even as the prenup shoot was an out of town campus ministry team effort and we accommodated them in Mama’s home afterwards.)

It was such a shameful loss because it was such a public proposal. It was an elaborate movie house proposal, (he’s such a movie nut!) He did rent a whole cinema and treated a 100 or so of our friends and colleagues to that extravaganza, complete with a composed song and a music video!

Such a pursuit that he made of me, and inadvertently, the campus church mates and some others would tell us somewhat of what we now call “goals!.” A handful of my closest Victory groupmates and friends were genuinely elated for me, heck the whole church was rejoicing with us!

The loss of that ring in that beach was terrible, and yet, the loss of my materialism was not so terrible. In fact it was great! I had gotten well into the book of Job that time. I had mustered up the courage to tell my fiancé that I lost my ring. I thought he would be mad and I was really expecting that he would break up with me over my stupid carelessness. But ever the gentleman that he was, he just said words that were never forgotten: “Bakit ka umiiyak? E engaged parin naman tayo kahit nawala yung ring diba?!” (Why are you crying, aren’t we still engaged even if the ring is lost!?)

I was crying because I lost such a thing of beauty and I thought I lost what it meant too!

I was flabbergasted as I had never thought of it that way!

I had wrongly pinned everything of meaning in the beauty of marriage into a “shiny new toy,” much like a toddler.

For a time I struggled with questioning my worthiness to be responsible for taking care of our future children, if given.

In those days we usually hung out with the campus kids and one of them said “I was with kuya Jd when he bought that!” Then he proceeded to tell the whole group the 6-digit monetary amount it cost. That knowledge firstly impressed me and told me of how special I was. Then later it was totally, “Wow thanks for adding salt to my wound!”

When God takes away something, it is for our good and for His glory. We can’t immediately see it, but it is.

God knew me better than I knew myself. He knew that I was purely running on materialism at the time. I was all about me, my money, what I did, could do, and what I could buy, what I had. He knew that pride and earthly things occupied my heart. But He was in the business of changing me for the better, as if He wasn’t done in saving me. I thought I was all that and more, and He thought, come to Me, and I’ll define to you how special you are, who you really are.” He’s not finished with me yet.

I know that losing a ring doesn’t at all compare to losing a loved one, let’s say in war, (as I’ve seen many times before) or in the current covid19 pandemic, but still, but let me just say that any loss that makes me grow closer to my Lord and Savior, I’m fine with that. I know He has plans and purposes for me, and He is sovereign.

In the book of Job, Job was tested, he lost his entire family, his possessions, the loyalty of his wife, his friends, even his health! In all that, he didn’t sin and he praised the Lord! Towards the end they have a question and answer portion and its amazing, I certainly love the father-son exchanges of Job and God in the books’ very last chapter.

At this, Job got up and tore his robe and shaved his head. Then he fell to the ground in worship and said: “Naked I came from my mother’s womb, and naked I will depart. The LORD gave and the LORD has taken away; may the name of the LORD be praised.”

Job 1:20-21

My husband jokes about it now. And I can now certainly laugh and tell it to those who ask too. Well he’s been joking about it since day 1 (or day 2 for that matter)! He has this sense of the more important things in life and death, and he’s all things I’m not. I am mighty glad God put him as my leader then! I wouldn’t choose any other!

These are our Suarez wedding rings, and the Unisilver engagement ring we got for photo ops! Haha!

During that time, I did lose a ring. But I did gain my husband, an extended clan of loving and supportive in-laws, lifelong friendships, and great life lessons I brought with me till now. Eventually God gave us kids to love as well.

Nowadays one would be hard pressed or find me dead, rather than pin my hopes on nothing less than Jesus. (I wonder then what taught me that?!)

Photo by Ron Smith on Unsplash

Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.

Romans 5: 3-5

The Gift of Marriage and Parenting

What happened to that thin lady who used to work in the military? Salvation happened. Marriage happened. Kids happened. Life happened.

It’s been 10 years with Christ, 8 years with JD, 6 years with the kids around, the gift of marriage and parenting has grown us a lot, in ways I never would’ve experienced as a single woman.

Motherhood has grown me in ways I never would’ve imagined, emotional agility is being exercised everyday. I grow as they grow, we laugh, we play, and we fight and makeup. It’s all part of the package.

Children are wonderful blessings, granted they need a ton of care, discipline, and hard work, but in God’s wisdom, I think He put children as babies that need a lot of care as a form of test for us.

We depend on him more, to get up each day from a long night of breastfeeding woes, to get up and work to provide (in the case of husbands) and still, to get up, even if sick and work to present meals, activities and maintain a certain home rhythm. We depend on him more to work in us, as we raise and disciple our kids, to lead us parents, as we lead our kids, to grow in our walk with Jesus, as we show our kids the narrow path, by God’s grace, into their salvation.

We hurdle through the hill of difficulty, stumble through mistakes, all through the recognition that Christ is our righteousness, our redeemer, our wisdom.

We hurdle through the hill of difficulty, stumble through mistakes, all through the recognition that Christ is our righteousness, our redeemer, and our wisdom.

As the days draw near to start my firstborn on “formal” grade school homeschooling, I can’t help but feel excited for the all the more shall I say, “serious” fun we get to have as the lessons become a tad longer, a lot deeper, and wider in scope; then it isn’t just going to be letters, numbers, and finger painting anymore. As it unfolds, I am certain of my hope, that God is with us, and that’s just what makes it all shall I say, doable.

“So teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom. Satisfy us in the morning with your steadfast love, that we may rejoice and be glad all our days.”

Psalm 90:12,14

Disoriented by Dysmenorrhea

Ever since we finished breastfeeding our 2nd child, that was it: I was super thankful and elated about that no mean feat, and I considered that an accomplishment.

Little did I know I would continue to suffer physical pain.

Oh this world! One trial does come after the other, certainly it does teach dependence on the Lord for daily strength.

I began to have terrible pain upon menstruation, otherwise known as dysmenorrhea. It was a 3-day ordeal of debilitating pain to the point that I couldn’t even walk! I couldn’t believe it because usually teens had this, or atleast my high school friends during our teens had it.

God really does superbly provide, miraculously I still was able to cook, clean, and serve the family and just be a wife and mom, though totally disoriented by the pain, having to somewhat “crawl” over those tasks because, well, a mom has to!

Disorientation was such that I would rest as much as I can after the kids are fed, no homeschooling could be done, but thankfully, just a few minutes of read-alouds could be managed every now & then.

Emotionally, it was taxing too. Prescription medicines for post-op pain did its job; but I knew I couldn’t take those forever!

To be technical about it, before anyone’s period begins, the cells that form the lining of the uterus, (endometrial cells), break down and release plenty of inflammatory prostaglandins, causing the pain. The post-op pain relievers I took merely blocked my feeling of this inflammatory pain. Usually Ibuprofen is my handy over-the-counter companion on those pain-filled days.

Friends started to notice, owing to the fact that I missed some gatherings, so I tried their suggestions. Some of those suggestions worked and boy was I relieved!

So with trial and error I narrowed those suggestions to iron supplements and hot compress; those worked to reduce pain by about 10%.

I’m thankful I encountered plant-based eating though! It attacked my problem at its core, and helped the whole family’s well-being; seeing that my youngest is allergic to chicken, eggs, and shrimp, we started to eat less and less of those things and naturally had to learn to eat more veggies, fruits, tofu, fish, (we practically became pescatarians!) mushrooms, and chickpeas.

A US research has shown that a plant-based diet would reduce the pain and inflammation of dysmenorrhea by upto 33%, they were told to eat more fiber in order to eliminate the excessive estrogen levels that caused the pain. These excessive estrogen levels were attributed to pregnant cows that give us milk, its red meat, and high-fat processed food widely available in today’s food choices. In fact those women refused to get back to their previous diets even if they were told to as part of the study!

Going increasingly plant-based was all around such a gift, a win-win for my youngest’s allergies and my pain relief too. Being plant-based, even not strictly and legalistically, did perform unspeakable relief for dysmenorrhea.

Personally, it brought down my pain level by around, say 80%, astounding!

From then on we started to enjoy having more activities even on period days, and started to make whole-wheat flatbread veggie pizzas too!

My increasingly plant-based food intake greatly reduced this menstrual pain, I’m certain and utterly thankful that God created plants for our good, our enjoyment and His good pleasure as we do His will for us!