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Lifted right out of Nancy Wolgemuth’s “Adorned,” here are some of her practical examples of a wise and unwise woman, specifically her tongue.
UNWISE | WISE |
Says whatever comes to mind without hesitating | Slow to speak, words are measured, thinks first |
Talks too much | Good listener |
Quick to vent anger/frustration | Quick to praise/give thanks |
Wounds/belittles/tears down | Words minister grace/blessing/encouragement |
Exaggerates | Careful with the truth |
Speaks roughly | Gracious, pure words |
Argumentative | Humble/yields the right to be right |
Excessive shyness/fearful to talk | Blesses others by speaking good words in due season |
I realize these are true of us at one time or another, thus the importance of saying sorry unto the Lord and then unto others (especially our husband and kids!)
Now this takes a bit of intentionality. But definitely, bridling our tongue, and being a blessing by way of words isn’t accomplished by more self-will & determination, but rather a dependence on God and His Spirit’s enabling grace.
Lord, may we call on to You for bridling our tongue, blessing people with our words, in season and out of season, may You enable us to continue building people up, bring healing with our words to all around us, and especially spread kindness and loving discipline to our kids too, in Jesus name, Amen!
“There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”
Proverbs 12:18

“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”
Ephesians 4:29